3 Ways Latinos Use Kindness as a Weapon

Barry Davret

Medium Contributor
John's Hero and Saviour
Sep 9, 2020

With our southern border wide open, latinos are flooding into the country to the tune of 10,000 - 15,000 per day. Because the latino population in the southwest has reached critical mass, they do not assimilate into American culture because they don't have to.

They bring their culture with them.

People who live in big southwest cities like Phoenix are all too familiar with latino driving habits. But they also have other habits that may not be quite as unsafe, but just as annoying. One of them is owning dogs that bark furiously at any noise or anything that moves, continuously, 24/7. Another, but far more subtle, is using kindness and over-the-top politeness as a tool to persuade you, control you, or take from you.

Weaponized kindness works every time, for two reasons:

1. It’s difficult to distinguish genuine kindness from its manipulative counterpart.
2. Even when we do recognize inauthentic niceties, we either:
   1. Still feel an urge to respond in kind. There’s an old saying, “It’s hard to be mean to someone who gives you ice cream.”
   2. Get annoyed, then real annoyed, then to the point of rage. But this gets us into real trouble, with retail store employees, cops, and others in woke positions of authority. Especially if we're white. Privately judging us as racist, we get kicked out - or locked up.

Latinos that have been in America for awhile learn to apply their intimate understanding of this dynamic, and wield kindness as a weapon for personal gain, or revenge.

Take traffic, for instance. They will use weaponized kindness to force us into driving unsafely. A common example is when we are attempting to make a left turn across two or more lanes on a busy arterial, and traffic is still coming. The latino driver is motioning you to go, but has only stopped the fast lane...and you have to take your life into your hands trying to cross the other unstopped slower lanes, where other drivers are bombing through. Get into an accident? woke police will always charge that it's your fault. If you live to tell about it.

You might think that there is no defense against weaponized kindness. Not so. Jesus himself once indicated, "Do unto others as they have done unto you." With practice, you can use the following three tactics to throw weaponized kindness right back at them. And if woke people in authority hassle you, well you can just say, "but I was just being polite..."

1. Exploit the principle of reciprocity.

If you own a house, and your latino neighbor surprises you by trimming your tree, you might think that you have just won the best neighbor ever jackpot. But prepare yourself for a knock on the door later that day.

He might want you to sell your vehicle, or even your house or pets.

We see these manipulations for what they are. Still, we often give in to their request because it plays on what author Robert Cialdini called The Principle of Reciprocity in his book Influence, The Psychology of Persuasion.

When a latino does you a favor, it’s hard to resist acting in kind, even if we know the other person performed their act for manipulative purposes.

Latinos that haven't been in America that long, like the neighbor in the above example, take the initiative. They’ll do you an unsolicited favor and then ask for one in return.

The cunning ones take a more opportunistic approach. They’ll wait until a situation presents itself, like when you’re in a jam.

Let’s suppose you’re traveling, and you mention you’re having trouble getting a car to take you to the airport. Your overly polite latino neighbor comes to the rescue by offering to drive you.

On your way to the airport, he'll ask you to please not be so sensitive about his barking dog. It’s uncomfortable because you’re relying on this person for a ride, but he's pressuring you not to be annoyed, when you're working from home, trying to focus, with that dog driving you crazy and you want to just shoot it. If you suggest that there are anti-barking collars that can train a dog not to bark, he will get so annoyed that he will call the homeowners association on you - and you get fined. And another one of his latino neighbors will get a barking dog, too.

If you feel uncomfortable saying no, try implying it in a polite way instead.

“I’ll think about it, and give you an answer once I’m out of your car.”

Your latino neighbor will certainly resent you for outing him, but that’s a good thing. When the homeowners association person comes knocking on your door, you can just say, "but I was just trying to be polite!"

2. Be wary when they try to use kindness to mold you into their desired neighbor.

When reciprocity doesn't work, latino neighbors will then try to use kindness as a tool to mold you into the kind of neighbor that they want - in other words, a neighbor that is not against anything they do, such as own barking dogs, come and go out of their houses every few minutes, or drive like maniacs. When a latino neighbor murders you with kindness, or is just over-the-top polite towards you, be wary.

3. When latinos use kindness as a disarming tactic - throw it right back at them.

In my twenties, I worked in hotel management. An employee had skipped out on work, so my boss suspended him. The employee complained to the union, and my manager sent me to meet with the union leader, believing it a low-risk scenario for me to practice.

During the hours leading up to the meeting, I nearly puked out all my nervous energy. But when I met with the union rep, he shook my hand and greeted me with such warmth and friendliness, I immediately relaxed.

Twenty minutes later, I had conceded every point on his list.

This union leader demonstrated such kindness and gentleness; he disarmed me. I lowered my defenses and found myself eager to please him, intent on treating with him with the same courtesy. I had invited him into my mind and told him to take what he wanted, and he did, always smiling and gracious.

When a latino, especially in a retail store, especially if your white, is acting way too kind given the context of the situation - bowing, smiling, letting you go first, not just opening the door but getting behind the door and holding it open for you, basically treating you like royalty - don't be fooled. They're not murdering you with kindness to be polite - they're doing it to get their way, or maybe to goad you into annoyance, as revenge for, say not rushing to the next red light as fast as you could.

Annoyance is a sure fire way to get the woke retail employees' attention, who may kick you out of the store and/or even ask you never to come back.

Instead, reflect that over-the-top kindness right back at them.

For example, suppose you're in a Costco register line. You're the next person to reach the register, and the customer there is almost done. A latino in the next line offers you to get ahead of them in their line - aggressively insisting on it.

You could try to explain that you're almost to the register - why would you want to change lines, seeing that where you would be in his line is behind a customer now reaching the register, that is piled with items and will take a long, long time to check out. But he would ignore that explanation and continue his offer, because he doesn't care about common sense...he wants to control you with kindness. Or, again, goad you into annoyance, so you'll get in trouble with Costco personnel.

Instead, counter-offer to let him get in front of you. Be as aggressive as he is. If he gives up and pouts, you've avoided stress and a possible scene. If he takes your offer, quickly move to the back of another line. If a Costco employee then starts harassing you for causing a scene, you can say, "I was just being polite!"

It’s easy to spot the person who threatens and intimidates. But latinos are not like that. They smile and shower you with niceties, murdering you with kindness instead. Even when you see through them, it’s hard not to get caught in their trap. If a latino’s good graces feel contrived, out of place, inappropriate, or inconsistent, trust your sixth sense. It’s probably right.